Introduction

Well, according to my own lawyer, the orders put forth by the divorce judge to protect myself and my daughter is unenforceable. So are most of the orders in a divorce decree. My wife is allowed to drink while on dangerous psychotropic drugs, send unending text messages, and involve herself in other risky and irrational behaviors. Considering the fact that everything I write is true, documentable, and with the best interest of my wife in my heart, I don’t see how I can be held accountable. I would love to discuss the finer points of any of these posts with all involved. I am a writer. At the end of this process I hope to have a book. Without knowing how it ends I can’t tell you if it is going to be a tragedy or just a drama. However, one thing is for certain, it will not be a work of fiction. Sharing this story will hopefully generate more people to contact me with theirs.

This is not a typical divorce story. Unfortunately it is more common then the courts or the participants know. This is not a story of two people who grew apart and started trashing their marriage vows. There was no back story of a couple that were always trying to hurt each other. We were not the couple you hated to hang out with because we always ended up in a fight. This is not a story of abuse of any kind and one person fleeing from the unhealthy situation. This is not a story of family pressures pushing a couple apart. This is not a story where divorce was the best option at hand. In fact most people would love if the minor problems that plagued the relationship were their only ones.

Quite to the contrary, this is a story of a couple that when they experienced a rocky period after the birth of their child, they agreed they love each other so much that they should seek therapy. It is about a couple who had mild underlying issues for the entire 12 years they were together. This is a story about the cure causing many magnitudes times of more damage then the sickness. This is a story of about how the misdiagnosis and prescription of the SSRI Prozac is currently ruining an exemplary marriage, destroying the lives of the lovers, their child, and their families. It is not an account of how a man turned on his wife and schemed, deceived, and punished his wife for her irrational behavior. It is instead about a man who so loved his wife that he attempted to rise above the hate, resentment, and anger and found the answers to “what just happened?” It is also the story of how a man had to fight his wife, her doctors, his own doctor, and even his own lawyer to believe him that the psychosis is being caused by the drug, and try to save his family. At the same time he had to fight many of his own friends and family who agreed he was right about the his perception of the relationship, but recommended he just give up and move on. It is about being caught in limbo of mourning for a lost loved one and finding the strength continue to fight her ghost for the return. It is a story of incredible odds being stacked against the success of the marriage.

This is the chronicles of what has happened and what is happening as I take the hardest journey I ever have been confronted with. Considering my past, that is saying something. It is month 2 since the actual filing of the divorce. So much has happened it feels like month six. The first few post will be catching up with the things I hope I didn’t forget. I was asking my lawyer why this divorce could be pressed when none of the articles were accurate and I cold prove it. She said, “Incompatible” is a catch all so that children later in life don’t have to know the bitter details of the divorce. Talk about illogical. If a child goes to the extent of seeking out the court records for answers, then simply giving them the sugar coated version will be insufficient to quell their longing. I know. I would love to ask my own mother hundreds of questions. Unfortunately, that dysfunctional marriage ended in her death due to cancer. My daughter will know the truth. Even though I am still searching for exactly what that is right now.